Depressing conversations about transness with loved ones. I feel very dented now.

What do you think about people who question the notion of transness because the notion of gender itself is problematic? Like: "gender is not a meaningful concept; we should all be beyond gender, so a desire or need to change gender is pointless or even pathetic." This argument hurts a lot because it shows a real lack of understanding and thats something that is really hurtful to get from people you love.

I wish I had a better counter than i) in a post gender world, maybe, but not here, or ii) easy for you to say...

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@Eve the only response to this is your no.1

once we'll all be "beyond gender", then we can talk about pointlessness of the concept. but as long as big majority in society is clueless about anything outside of cis gender binary, these concepts are extremely necessary.

this gender-blindness reminds me of color-blindness - for both phenomena it probably true: it _erases_ all the struggles of those denied the rights of the privileged.

erasure is painful.