@deadsuperhero @lifewinning inadvertent choice? In the sense that you have the free will to succumb to doubt and fear, or to resist it, and resisting it can be worthwhile because acceptance turns it into a pathology?

@will @lifewinning Fight or Flight is ultimately a kind of choice, but it isn't much of one if everything feels futile.

@deadsuperhero @lifewinning isn't stoicism in the face of futility the height of agency though? (To string together a bunch of fancy words I just thought up that hopefully maybe gets at what I'm trying to say)

@will @lifewinning That assumes that one has the faculties to be stoic. Emotions are not always some rigid thing that one can use mindfulness to direct towards a certain headspace.

@deadsuperhero @lifewinning in which case wouldn't the lipstick reminder be a wake-up call to practice some self-care and regain the ability to be stoic? That's what daily affirmations are, after all, right? Meeting you where you are and reminding you of where you yourself want to be, of the things you easily forget

@will @deadsuperhero I was partly thinking of it in terms of taking the next right action as an important act of care but honestly these days I'm sort of just trying to not die and hadn't given it that much thought

@lifewinning @deadsuperhero not dying is the best way to live :D hang in there!