I guess I'm at least getting better at breaking stalemates in brain-conflicts.
Maybe I'm not ever going to be the kind of person who can bounce back from anything or push through painful and exhausting shit and keep going
I'd like to think that's ok not to be, but I'm worried that that fortitude is required from me, and failing to fulfil it will have consequences.
Maybe I've heard of too many worst case scenarios from other people, and believed too much of the parents' BS about what's expected of me?
Or, maybe not "what's expected of me" but "what I'm capable of if I 'try harder'"
@kitsch as a brainweird the world will always expect you to push yourself to the point of injury to fit its expectations. so yeah sometimes there are consequences :-/ it's unavoidable in a hostile society, regardless of where you set the limit on your exertion. but you can learn to value yourself anyway, triage the important external stuff, and find other sources of social support.
@fae Do you have any tips for recognising when it's needed to do that?
@fae Or further general advice/tips in that area too
@fae Yeah, I think that's what I mean.
@fae Ok, thank you
@fae Tangentially, I know I tend to be nervous comparing my issues to other peoples' even when they similar. I guess that could be [imposter syndrome?], and being aware of misunderstanding what I'm going through, and finally just being aware of subjectivity of language though in that case it'll help me to remember that different people do have different limits.
Talking to myself mostly but if you want to chatter about this too I'm open for it.
Buuuut I know that some things that I am will be putting me at a disadvantage in life, and even just the knowledge of that has me on edge.