@alyx The worst is when they invite you out to something that sounds reasonable, and then it just gets spendier and spendier.
Recently in my life
"Let's go out to this river tubing place on the hudson!" - Great, agreed!
"And then we'll do a barbecue with a bonfire. Throw in for beer?" - I guess I can
"Now that we're already driving there and need to rent a space to cook anyway, let's sleep there. Get a tent and sleeping bag before we leave next week" - Wait, what?
And it's really hard to say no after saying yes several times. Especially for me, since I barely kept any friendships going in my dysphoric pre-transition haze.
invited out by the moneyed Afficher plus
@ikea_femme YESSSSS FUCK I HATE THAT
i'll order one item and water, easily lowest cost of the bunch, but feel like i'd be somehow bad if i objected to the "even" split
$10 cocktails aren't even on my radar. what a waste of scarce capitalism points
that said, the other day a techie i'm close to told me that they make $125/hr, and not even working for a lot of it. they were buying a plane ticket to korea and it was quite a revelation to me that they could afford that with not even a day's wages.