@Morgane
ty very much for your insights about BDSM and subspace.

My favorite part of the bdsm is how links between people evolve for a moment. I don't really like the "community" part of the bdsm, which is often elitist and repeat society's norms while trying to avoid looking like it.

It's all different according to partners and it's mandatory to take that into account. I lived both wonderful, frustrating, and horrible moments.

But in my "ideal" relationship : it differs with the partner and paying attention to that partner allows to discover many new things. Which means there is no ideal bdsm relationship. But all of those with attentive people have a chance to blossom beautifully.

@Morgane This is starting to get close to my triggers. It is very true that the links that are created can be the best provided by the BDSM. It is also true that there are many very toxic people in those circles.

@Morgane I know that we are talking about concrete things, but I need to say that there is not only submission, pain and strings in the BDSM. But I'm not going to say any more because I don't feel good about it.

@kwendenarmo Sorry for making you uncomfortable. I know well about other things, but said things are also close to my triggers so I avoid talking of them. Even me prefer to talk about things I'm comfortable with.

@Morgane Don't worry, like I said, it's a love-fear relationship right now. I like to read about other people's experiences, even if that sometimes triggers me. I'll be all right in a little while. I hope I didn't trigger anybody else's.

Thank you, really!

@Morgane Now I have to go talk about my triggers and my shit with the psychologist, I'm already late.

@Morgane I have a love-fear relationship with the BDSM. I love it as a sexologist, it excites me personally, there is a great diversity and I always love that. Of course it is not for everyone, but neither is it what the world believes from outside. There are wonderful and liberating things. Of course, in the huge fan there are things we may not like and even reject, but they exist.

@Morgane society is always a mask, hypocritical, self-centered and phobic. Someday (tm) I will write something about the lights of the BDSM

@polychrome No it's not ! Of course ! I'm sorry if what I wrote can be understood that way, I apologize ! You are entirely right, not everybody has the same desires neither the same ways to seek freedom ! Which is actually a wonderful thing that I love to see blossom when I look at people I know.

Also, I also want to add that bdsm and how things goes can vary a lot according to the peple/situations. But indeed, some people will only feel anxious and I am not saying bdsm is a magical thing that solves problems.

I am sorry and I hope you will be alright.

@Morgane I'm alright, I didn't think you said anything like that, don't worry. I just wanted to share my counter perspective from experience.

I apologise if it made you think I was hurt or took anything you said like that. It's all fine.

@polychrome Don't apologize, I was just afraid to have hurt you ! But it's nothing bad, it only teach me to be more careful with words.

Also, I want to thank you for your words. It's important and your point of view is extremely important. Sincerely. Thanks a lot for expressing it.