i suck at them. i've only ever had to break up with someone once, and it was terribly painful and didn't go well. however, i'm realizing i really should break up with someone i've been nominally dating over the internet for a long time. we never talk any more, we don't have much in common, and we live too far apart to ever see each other.

just makes me sad to even think about it. not sure what to do.

@nergdron to do it if you think that's the right thing to do, because it hurts more to keep a relationship that only brings sadness/etc, and that allows you to go forward. and it will maybe help that person too. i am not of good advice. i hate breakups. Only did it once, but it allowed me, after many tears, to see that it really wasn't at all a relationship i could desire in the way it was.

@Morgane oui, c'est ça. i think it needs to end, i think it's the best for both of us, since we're not really dating anyway. but i really do care about her and don't want to hurt her.

@nergdron I guess we share a lot of similarities on that point. Hurting someone breaks me into pieces. Yet, from experience, I learned to be more forgiving with myself, as what hurts isn't what you do there, but how the relationship came to be, because of how life went. You want the better for that person, and... my my, I do know what you may feel. Maybe take time to speak with that person and break up together ? Or if you fear you can't, then break up but it doesn't prevent you from being willing to have her happy and joyful in the future ? I really wish I could help more u---u