LB: I agree. while I don't think I "was a man" I don't think I "was a woman." I was living as a man, though an effeminate gay one, so I had overlapping experiences with men and some of that perspective. When I started living as a woman, I now have the experiences of living as a woman. when I lived as a man I was pressured into behaving certain ways and internalized some of those, and then living as a woman I was resocialized and internalized other stuff that replaced the old stuff.