It certainly doesn't help that my friends in the physical plane (or however I should refer to them) don't know I'm trans and so often misgender me without realising.

Maybe I should come out to them? They'd probably either hate me for it or be really supportive. I'm not sure I want either of those things. The first would just be really awful, and the second would make it even more difficult for me not to transition. Plus, other people might find out somehow.

I'm not sure which is worse, really.

Not coming out and facing the dysphoria and lots of people I care about not really knowing me properly and misgendering me constantly without malice, and not knowing how anyone would respond to my potential transition, and always having the possibility of transition there taunting me?

Or transitioning, and constantly either being under threat or being worried about the possibility of being under threat, and possibly losing friends for it?

I think I'll just go with the safe option of doing nothing and hope I'm not making a mistake.