I've been silent while y'all have been grieving because I’m not convinced anything I have to say is useful.

If she was your first community suicide -- and maybe even if she's not-- you'll think of her every time someone else fails their battle with despair. (is that comforting?)

Every time someone falls, remember: You could not have saved her, because we cannot save anyone. We can only be there to help, while they struggle to save themselves. And if they don't, if they can't, it's never, ever, going to be your fault. (or theirs.)

Because you can't save anyone.

But you were there, and she noticed, at least sometimes. Even though she fell.