@sev and i can remember using the word 'queer' and 'genderqueer' to describe myself around 1998 or 1999 and running into local cis white gay men, then in their forties, who'd get terribly bent out of shape at how i described myself. some would go on to say even nastier stuff (the big one being "you chose to trans because it's more acceptable than being seen as a gay man"). i had a name for this demographic, and it was both accurate and not very nice. -_-