"Hey Emily I'm vanilla"

Cool! You do you! Kinky people exist. Some might ask if you want to get a little deviant. It's up to you! You may just happen to have kinky friends. TRUST THAT YOUR FRIEND IS A GOOD PERSON. Saying "bdsm is just abuse" is one of the biggest issues we face to this day and it's honestly none of your fucking business what I do with a consenting partner in bed. Kinky people take extreme precautions to be safe and nothing they do in the privacy of their home will affect your sex life in any way! Curious? Give it a shot! freaked out by it? It's not for everyone! It is for some though and it's nice to respect that