Trust: hard won, easily lost @nire@witches.town

I forgot how calming having my collar on is after nine months of not that

@chr what do you think just for men is

that said i should get back into practice with play piercing needles again one of these days

*digging through boxes of belongings trying to find a thing* oh so *thats* where my surgical stapler went

i sorta wish i was still that person but its been years and a lot of illness between

@Ulfra_Wolfe @Oneironott i cant, but sometimes it helps to start a studygroup

@KawaSeadrake *hug* ya

@Oneironott *offer hugs* yeah the uh. struggling will be a diffeernt sort there, and migth be better but has a chance to also be worse

@KawaSeadrake *offer hugs* yeah :\

@KawaSeadrake or rather, i'd love to balance on androgyny but

@KawaSeadrake it might come to the point where you just have to do the one better for your brain bc the effects hurt it less, which is why im on estrogen even tho i dont really like the face or body stuff

but also so so many are flawed in ways cis people can take advantage of for their erasure/eugenics/etc and thats the reason they hired you, generally, and not your writing skill -- plently of trans women before you write better, thats not at anyone in particular, just, there are so many that the chances of anyone new being so much better writers is so so low. So maybe think why those people aren't taking these platforms, even voluntarily or bc no one is hiring them

i've been saying this for awhile but, argh

and then exponential growth of online communities happened, which copied those communities and their resources and knowledge, but not things from before that.

so, (and i *overuse* this phrase but its definately the best i can describe for what happens) people spend so much wasted effort reinventing square wheels -- creating not-quite-wrong things for things we already fixed/established/etc
years ago in a better way, but they just dont know it was.

and its a lot of wasted effort and basically misinfo, and, augh

so much of what i knew the first two years is wrong, i keep discovering things i think are wrong/need changing/etc

but also like, this brings up something else, something that this is often a symptom of, which is that, between the late 1990s and the early 2000s, internet communities started but most of them had ~very little of the oral history/knowledge/etc collected, and very, very few of the books/paper resources. and a lot of people didnt bother even putting them up -- lots of zines lost, etc etc

crossposting from twitter, https://twitter.com/NireBryce/status/885655558178701313

a lot of the reason cis people keep paying/giving platform to newly out trans writers is that, among all the other things, they're likely to make mistakes that the cis people, especially those who want us erased, can use as the crack in the armor, the leverage. so they can go 'look! a prolific writer said this!"

the longer you're out and the longer you're around the less and less you'll get hired to write for these platforms, generally, and thats mostly because with experience comes actually learning things and the slice of what you know expands

hello masto sorry im not here much but i will be once i travel, im heading to the bay area for awhile on the 15th

i have a feeling @starkatt and others in those spaces will enjoy today's new new isaac arthur https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pld8wTa16Jk

@Hiraelle thank you for your constant vigilance, citizen.

@Hiraelle i believe it was the berenstain books, which many believe to be spelled berenstein during their childhood.

this is untrue, however, and anyone claiming so should be reported to your local state-level administration

@KawaSeadrake you cn most of it