things i look for in a datefriend:

how you hold my hand and, more importantly, whether you're cool with holding hands. this is what i miss the most and crave the most as i get older. most folks playing the adulting card seem to want to skip right over that and hop right into just kissing as an overture. thanks, but nah. i gotta trust you first. your hand with mine tells me a lot.

also, how do you feel about intimacy of pressing our foreheads together when we greet, before doing other things like kissing (which is also very important to me, but not as much so as these other two)?

it has been at least five, if not ten years since someone has held my hand. it's been so long ago that i can no longer remember. i was last shagged more recently (in 2014), and made out more recently than that (in 2016)