wanna touch partners and close friends who want it but theres like, no one actually near me *audible pout*
miss having our hands on people, even if just like, in their hands
@nire this, more than anything. so many folks who flirt with me don't realize that this is, like, super-important for me. it's a starting point, not an optional accessory
@patience yeah idk im. sort of backwards to most people where i need close friendship before anyone can be partner? and a lot of physical intimacy (Sometimes sexual but often rarely) happens before we're even A Thing
@patience but i just cant trust people enough for the brain to switch over without that? and its inconvenient but fortunately a lot of other people are... also this sort of thing or willing to do it because they like the idea of cuddling with close friends.
@patience but its annoying because i cant like, just go on dates and then have that turn into a relationship
@nire same, which is probably why i don't actively seek to date, even though the concept of it sounds nice. in practice, it's not how i engage intimately/interpersonally as the starting point
@patience tangentially im. glad but also really suprised just how many people are like, All For nonsexual cosleeping with friends in my communities somehow
@patience i think a lot of it is queer + prooooooooobably autistic
@patience since it seems very much the 20-50 age group
@patience (so i dont think its even mostly age)
@nire perhaps, tho ways of seeing interpersonal interactions have, at a macro level, changed a lot in 20–25yrs. some folks get set in that headspace and stay there for the rest of their lives. it's partly why i don't really understand a lot of the people who are from the early/mid/late ’70s. (plus, there weren't really that many of us to start with as the "baby bust")
@nire possibly, idk
@nire it's possibly a mix of factors, generational probably being just a part of that