@Ulfra_Wolfe this is such a real thread. thank you. I like to say to friends struggling with this that "an explanation isn't an excuse", and "put on your own air mask before helping others".

Meaning, it's good to be empathetic, but everyone is ultimately responsible for their own actions. and you need to do right by yourself and take care of yourself before you help others, or you'll both end up drowning.