@polymerwitch yeah like this is the real struggle. I love my girls. and I have a hard time saying no when wonderful ladies ask me out. but I definitely feel like I have too much going on and can't give people the attention they deserve.

this has been somewhat simplified by the fact that two of them are also dating each other, so we can do threesome dates.

but still. i feel like i have let things get out of hand, because i want to kiss all the girls and i have never been in a position where turning people down was even a consideration before.

@nergdron yeah, I have a number of people in my life that are friends plus cuddles and kisses, and that seems to workout pretty well for me.

It's why I often identify as a Relationship Anarchist, but that phrase also seems kinda snooty to me so idk

@Maenad yeahhhhh that's about where I'm at.

@cmdrspacebabe nope. that's very much me. I let this situation escalate too far, for sure.

@nergdron oh noooo I know that feel and it is not fun ):

@cmdrspacebabe yeah. it's like... i love these people. but i know i'm not being a great partner trying to juggle them all. gotta figure a way to sort it out without hurting anyone, if possible. *sigh*

@nergdron yeah. I have friends who've had partners overdo it and wound up spreading themselves too thin - except they refused to admit it or communicate about it, which is obviously not the right choice. Definitely best to be honest about it and try to figure out how best to ration your energy.