@kathinka I'm sorry blegh that's super frustrating.

it generally pisses me off a lot that nts are quick to attribute anything horrible/heartless/sadistic... etc to mental illness as if we can't help it, when we have to use coping mechanisms daily and are often wayyyy more self aware than them. it's hard to not function normally without constantly putting in extra effort, and then lots of nts won't even go those lengths when it comes easy to them.