@kathinka I'm sorry blegh that's super frustrating.
it generally pisses me off a lot that nts are quick to attribute anything horrible/heartless/sadistic... etc to mental illness as if we can't help it, when we have to use coping mechanisms daily and are often wayyyy more self aware than them. it's hard to not function normally without constantly putting in extra effort, and then lots of nts won't even go those lengths when it comes easy to them.
mh, very salty against nts Afficher plus
@kathinka aaaaannnnd plus it sucks hard to get yelled at constantly because your brain literally won't work a certain way and you need to make yourself plan everything and more fake it than make it and nobody acts understanding about that, but as if you're lazy and a failure. and then you're supposed to tolerate it with people who CAN help it.
(which i know is basically exactly what you said but i had to repeat it bc i feel this on a deeper level tbh)