@LottieVixen right, i once found this article about time blindness, and reading this was like such a !!!!!!! moment bc i finally had a name for it
"Cutting Down on Chronic Lateness for Adults with ADHD"
https://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2014/04/01/cutting-down-on-chronic-lateness-for-adults-with-adhd/ https://witches.town/media/rZOqEuJLOFf5Eyf6vpg