i saw a tweet a few years ago from someone (not going to specify but they are a Fairly Well Known trans woman) that was like expressing great anger at people she perceived as being closeted trans women for like, not coming out of the closet on a schedule convenient to her
i think about that tweet like once a week and it fills me with righteous anger
tbh i only came out because of pressure from friends of mine (also it was just an awful time in my life so its not entirely their fault but also i'm still kind of mad)
it's dumb as hell to be constantly thinking about if i would have been less miserable or more miserable but i sure as hell know that coming out has done absolutely jack shit for me. i am in exactly the same place as i was in spring 2015 and that's not going to change.
i'm totally sick of trans women who've been transitioning for years and think they "get it" and therefore get to decide what's best for everyone else. fuck off