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@kara_dreamer I just checked mine, and I had... faving of other people's tweets in my drafts? Like, they must have come from times when I suddenly lost service and the fave action didn't succeed, but still, that is a weird way to handle that.

@ikea_femme ...I think this is right up there with this woman who was hassled for her GitHub profile in OkCupid messages for being peak OkCupid.

@ikea_femme At least with that one there's the "being gay is fuckin' amazing" comeback.

@ikea_femme ...does she think cis lesbians need to sleep with men every so often for, like, maintenance reasons?

@kara_dreamer Ok, so transitioning later is hard, yes, but hormones do wonders at any age, and presentation changes can mean a lot! (Living in a trans-people-heavy neighborhood helps.)

@ikea_femme Yeah, I mean... I went a long time thinking all this preposterous eggy shit. Even with witches.town's 666 character limit I couldn't express all the ways in which I told myself that I couldn't possibly be trans even though trans women seem phenomenally cool.

@ikea_femme Have you read His Dark Materials? And if so, do you remember Mary's recollection about marzipan and the degree to which one sees China as a place one might actually go to rather than just as a place where theoretically people are?

@ikea_femme So, a cool thing about queer dating is that going slowly / backing off into friendship if it's not feeling workable is more common. Not, like, guaranteed, but not as unusual as it is elsewhere.

Also, in case it helps to hear, you're obviously not a bandwaggoner and arguments not to do something you want to do based on prospective dating pool size are almost always not arguments one should pay attention to.

@kara_dreamer I'm still waiting to see if it's possible to report what is clearly a bug in an open source project and not get told that I'm wrong for wanting to use software the way I use software.

@ikea_femme So, I'm not saying we should only date other trans people, but it definitely is easier. And it can be a lot of fun!

@kara_dreamer I would!

@rosa I've noticed. <3

@rosa Somehow I'm not surprised.

And, like, I get that in some ways this is not that unusual, and that there are regional instances of this also, and so on.

But, like... the degree to which this makes basically _any_ conversation about anything in another country fraught in the US is just... really, alarmingly substantial.

There's this pervasive belief, in the US, that the state of [any given thing] can't really be better in any other country than it is here. That any claim to the contrary will turn out to be false if one really looks closely at everything going on Over There.

And, in this respect, the difference between mainstream conservatives and liberals is just that the former apply this thinking to the whole world, while the latter admit Canada, Australia, New Zealand, and most of Western Europe as exceptions. (Interesting what all those places have in common.)

Needless to say, this makes many potentially valuable conversations really difficult.

@kara_dreamer Well, if you feel like going down a wiki rabbit hole on this stuff, a decent place to start would probably be https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Documentary_hypothesis