@DialMforMara I honestly think the Seattle Freeze is a symptom of bigger problems, likely caused by this town just being a magnet for people with severe anxiety and not really having the kind of local culture that can ameliorate that.

Getting perspective on it such that you don't take it personally is definitely the first step towards adapting, though! I'm... not quite sure what the other steps are.

(The biggest danger, in my experience, is desperation-induced glomming onto anyone who doesn't ghost without actually evaluating whether they're a good idea. So, um, try not to do that thing and watch out for people who are doing it.)