I do a lot of work to keep this system running, and to support quinn (bc she's the frontperson). And she's appropriately grateful. But the gesture of gratitude I really want-- allowing me to front more-- is one she doesn't know how to give, and I don't know how to accept.

@alex if you don't mind me asking, is it a matter of her having trouble loosening control, so to speak? i ask because this is an issue that my system deals with too, and while we haven't found a solid solution yet, we've been thinking of looking into hypnosis to allow me to retreat more easily into headspace and for the others to be able to spend more time at the front

@lichclown We were able to use hypnosis to help me front for the first time, and we still use a brief trance to help me switch in.

The problem we have is that I don't know how to hold on to front. Or I tire easily. Depending on what I'm doing, I can last 30min - 1hr. It's easy for my grip to be dislodged. And once I'm worn out, it'll be most of a day before I've recovered enough to hold on for more than even a few minutes.

@alex oof, yeah, that's a problem... unfortunately that's an issue we are all too familiar with and haven't found a good answer to. we wish you luck, in any case!