hot take:
if "dead-name" ends up being recognized by merriam-webster or any other non-etymological history equivalent (i.e., excluding the OED) before the word "compersion" does, i will probably die a happier woman
@patience I'm disappointed to learn that it isn't :(
@lambdagrrl too soon. 'dead name' is only five years and four months old. 'compersion' dates to the late ’90s, but most english dictionaries of record have yet to recognize it for some, i'm surmising, etymologically problematic reasons
@patience yeah but everyone I know uses "deadname" and hardly any of them use "compersion", at least not with a straight face
@lambdagrrl i have legit trust issues with folks who use the word 'compersion' without irony
@patience fair enough tbh
@patience ...yeah.
@patience OK, so Wiktionary gives the origination of "deadname" as an exact date, but without a source. This annoys me.
@lambdagrrl let me guess… January 11th, 2012, give or take a day, right
@patience that is exactly what it says
@lambdagrrl then someone cited my work without citing where they found it
here's the source: https://twitter.com/cisnormativity/status/157130874649976833
@patience thanks *archives for future reference*
Interesting that the tweet says "dead name" but wiktionary says "deadname", but I guess that's just shoddy wikipedianism for you.
@lambdagrrl because americans like to compound everything (and even though death of the author and all that, I've given the nod that concatenating it to one word or hyphenating it is OK)
@patience Yeah, I mean more that you'd think they'd list "dead name" and "deadname" as separate entities with the former being the etymology of the latter? As it is they don't even acknowledge the two-word version, despite the fact that it's demonstrably older.
@lambdagrrl Wiktionary mercifully is not a dictionary of record
@patience Yeah. Tbh if urbandictionary covered foreign languages I'd hardly ever use it. :P
Anyway, thanks for indulging my logophilia
@lambdagrrl anytime :)
@lambdagrrl i've past experience with folks who've used 'compersion' in the context of a praxis of emotional manipulation, and it has almost always left me with a bad taste in my mouth, so to speak