in theory i could ask flatmates to not demand-ask "how are you" of me, but i think i tried that and they don't remember or don't get it. they are generally cooperative and respectful though.

and i have been wishy washy about it myself. i have a conflict between needing to isolate myself but keeping social opportunities open.

maybe it's that i need to communicate on my own terms.
like i do online: sort of talk about it when i want to, not when other people give me an expectation to fill. ..?

i assumed that's not an option, and that i have to do it in the framework or timing of "normal/neurotypical" interactions.