in theory i could ask flatmates to not demand-ask "how are you" of me, but i think i tried that and they don't remember or don't get it. they are generally cooperative and respectful though.
and i have been wishy washy about it myself. i have a conflict between needing to isolate myself but keeping social opportunities open.
maybe it's that i need to communicate on my own terms.
like i do online: sort of talk about it when i want to, not when other people give me an expectation to fill. ..?
i assumed that's not an option, and that i have to do it in the framework or timing of "normal/neurotypical" interactions.
also brain is going on a tangent of like. how there's a big disconnect between the specific expectation to fill "how are you," and the way that life is actually experienced and thought about, which is why it's impossible to answer without effort and discomfort. <<