**Mx you know who** @aredridel@mastodon.social · 12 avr. 2017, 20:43

**Mx you know who** @aredridel@mastodon.social · 12 avr. 2017, 20:43

Mx you know who @aredridel@mastodon.social

12 avr. 2017, 20:43

Mx you know who @aredridel@mastodon.social

dissent from standard trans narratives Afficher plus

Requiring that I erase my past, to present a consistent and current identity to the world is a violence.

I have not always been a woman. My being a woman is complicated. My old name was still my name. My time as young man taught me a lot about being a man in our culture. My time as a woman has taught me a lot about it too, and vice versa.

**Marie 🔮💖** @jamuraa · 2017-04-13T00:40:46Z

Marie 🔮💖 @jamuraa

dissent from standard trans narratives Afficher plus

@aredridel I want to talk to you about this so much but also am simultaneously scared you'll convince me of something or we'll just sit there with differing views and just agree that we have different approaches and that's OK.

I find exactly nothing wrong with people who have complicated histories especially because I have one myself but I work hard to present a simplified view to the world because normative treatment is important to me.

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**Mx you know who** @aredridel@mastodon.social · 13 avr. 2017, 01:29

**Mx you know who** @aredridel@mastodon.social · 13 avr. 2017, 01:29

13 avr. 2017, 01:29

Mx you know who @aredridel@mastodon.social

dissent from standard trans narratives Afficher plus

@jamuraa Always here for the talk (or you know where)

And that may be where we differ: Conforming to a norm has never been comfortable to me, regardless of what it is.

**Marie 🔮💖** @jamuraa · 13 avr. 2017, 01:35

**Marie 🔮💖** @jamuraa · 13 avr. 2017, 01:35

13 avr. 2017, 01:35

Marie 🔮💖 @jamuraa

dissent from standard trans narratives Afficher plus

@aredridel I don't have a problem not conforming to a norm, on some points, but I am very unhappy feeling exposed without knowing you first.

Knowing that part of my history is privileged information. You must be Trusted because I don't want to deal with your ignorant bullshit emotional labor from nothing.

**Mx you know who** @aredridel@mastodon.social · 13 avr. 2017, 01:41

**Mx you know who** @aredridel@mastodon.social · 13 avr. 2017, 01:41

13 avr. 2017, 01:41

Mx you know who @aredridel@mastodon.social

dissent from standard trans narratives Afficher plus

@jamuraa Yeah. I'm in a lucky spot with that, to some degree.

And also the openness I have is protective. You can't hurt me by outing me. I lead with it because I control my narrative, and the depth of the engagement.