@Elizafox @SarcasmKid @ikea_femme bold words!

@Elizafox @ikea_femme @bea @SarcasmKid

that's quite an assumption to make ;P

@sydneyfalk @Elizafox @bea @SarcasmKid Yeah, in retrospect, that was kinda a problematic quip. I guess what I mean more is that I feel extremely welcome on Mastodon, and never really feel at a loss for trans peers. Kind of the opposite of being trans IRL 😔

@ikea_femme @Elizafox @bea @SarcasmKid

oh! no, I meant Eliza's assumption that she never makes assumptions about people

I used to think that myself but then I realized I was still automatically assuming LOTS of things and I still do -- I just try to examine it consciously

I used to assume EVERYBODY felt schools were prisons -- most people don't to the degree I do/did.

I used to assume EVERYBODY kind of just hated their family -- it's not universally the case.

etc. etc.

@sydneyfalk @Elizafox @bea @SarcasmKid I could write a book about dysphoria symptoms I assumed every guy experienced.

@ikea_femme @Elizafox @bea @SarcasmKid

:( <3

yeah. assumptions can be kinda insidious, esp about the worst parts of our lives -- so often people don't want to revisit those things, so -- assumptions are the glue in places we haven't yet examined/unpacked/etc.

@sydneyfalk So true. Something I really love about making more time to read and living in the city is that I get to see more diversity in the human experience both on the page and the street, and define myself better using that info. Going to a diverse campus that helped me realize I was trans in college.

Seeing children entirely unlike my memories of myself as a child, or people completely unlike me yet also similar in striking ways really makes me rewrite those assumptions.

@SarcasmKid @bea @Elizafox @ikea_femme

> I guess what I mean more is that I feel extremely welcome on Mastodon, and never really feel at a loss for trans peers.

honestly, I'm glad

I (think?) I'm cis -- it seems like a 95% certainty kind of thing despite all my flesh-hate because most of my flesh-hate isn't about gendered stuff but I haven't unpacked properly. but I've had trans partners, I know trans people get metric truckloads of shit on most social media

so I'm glad <3 ^_^