@alyx The worst is when they invite you out to something that sounds reasonable, and then it just gets spendier and spendier.
Recently in my life
"Let's go out to this river tubing place on the hudson!" - Great, agreed!
"And then we'll do a barbecue with a bonfire. Throw in for beer?" - I guess I can
"Now that we're already driving there and need to rent a space to cook anyway, let's sleep there. Get a tent and sleeping bag before we leave next week" - Wait, what?
And it's really hard to say no after saying yes several times. Especially for me, since I barely kept any friendships going in my dysphoric pre-transition haze.
