I came out to my coworkers at work since today is my last day and figured, hey, y'all know a trans person so consider that next time somebody talks shit. Nobody was surprised, so okay.
Middle aged lady asked if I was sure, if I ever tried being a bisexual man. So that was fun.
Imagine the person who's questioning and hears "Well, you could detransition and be gay/bi/straight..." and they're like "HOLY SHIT, WHAT? THAT'S ALLOWED?"
@ikea_femme among other infuriating things it feels like everyone's internalized 'LGBT' as a descending hierarchy of experimentation, like you skipped a step and settled for 'last resort' by accident
@kelly Yeah, I'm bi because transition got me to a place I could comfortably accept that, and I could more easily imagine sex I'd like as a woman with a guy, than if I were a guy with a guy.
I don't know that I'd be satisfied as a bi man in terms of gender (lmao no) or sexuality. I was only limping along as a straight dude.
@ikea_femme there's a part of me that resents all the time I spent assuming I 'couldn't' transition because now I feel I'm subconsciously contributing to that 'last resort' idea, but maybe I can at least reframe it as 'I Tried The Rest, Now Try The Best'
@kelly Yeah. I think the big thing is that cis people assume every trans person is born knowing that they can transition and how to safely ask for it, when we really just get a slowly growing awareness of trans people and transition like everyone else.
Yeah, there's people who are clearly gender nonconforming as kids, but even then, they don't know they're trans until they get the language for it.
And for a lot of us, it's not even that, but beyond seeing that you can transition, we need to see that we can transition and be whole people, and not just murder victims on SVU or sassy gay stereotypes.