@kara_dreamer My ex fiancee was so vanilla, I honestly can't tell how I feel about my genitals during sex. She'd want sex every couple months and otherwise, in our six year relationship, we masturbated individually. When I'd talk about wanting sex more or maybe scheduling it like some folks do, she'd get mad and say I shouldn't expect our relationship to be about sex, and that enthusiastic consent means we both have to really want it. She was a hypochondriac and thought sex could lead to one of us getting hurt. So I'm sort of a virgin on some level :-/