@kara_dreamer My ex fiancee was so vanilla, I honestly can't tell how I feel about my genitals during sex. She'd want sex every couple months and otherwise, in our six year relationship, we masturbated individually. When I'd talk about wanting sex more or maybe scheduling it like some folks do, she'd get mad and say I shouldn't expect our relationship to be about sex, and that enthusiastic consent means we both have to really want it. She was a hypochondriac and thought sex could lead to one of us getting hurt. So I'm sort of a virgin on some level :-/

@ikea_femme Oof, this sounds a lot like my first relationship (when I was still "male" and looking for guys). I ended up in a relationship with a guy who seemed to kinda hate sex but stuck with him a few years because it was better than being lonely and I'd grown up kinda ashamed of having sexual urges anyway, and towards the end we weren't even sleeping in the same bed >_< I've had more experience then but chiefly with partners who want me to top...I'm wanting more of the opposite, so I'm less inclined to need a cock that gets hard (though I still like to play with it.)