ALSO, most queer people say I have a perfectly fine face (I want to believe them), but cishet pals who are perhaps of a different mindset on surgery than trans people say shit that makes me feel worse.

IE: "Your grandma always told me I'd never be pretty, but I'd always be handsome," My mom, who's been clocked herself a few times.

"You know, there's a lot of ugly women and they don't get their skulls reshaped," a friend over beers.

"I'm generally against plastic surgery, so I wish I could convince you that you pass."

@kara_dreamer I think I'd like it, but it's practicality Were it free and less dramatic in terms of recovery, I'd get it ASAP. But I worry I'd be risking my life and blowing all my money over something I might not like. I was actually kind of gung ho on it for a few weeks, until somebody mentioned losing a friend to botched GCS (it was a tumblr anon message to a friend so who knows the circumstances) and a TERF who sent a tumblr acquaintance a nasty message about how "neovaginas" are nothing like the real thing since they can't regulate their pH and need to be dilated. Ugh.

@ikea_femme Ugh :( Yes, regular dilation is a necessity, but my GF's vagina sure looks and feels and responds like the "real" thing. What an asinine and insulting thing to be a snob about...

I'll be honest about my own feelings: as much enjoyment as I can tell Daria gets from her vagina...I can maybe take it or leave it? I sort of like having a penis even now (and even though it's not all THAT reliable)

@kara_dreamer My ex fiancee was so vanilla, I honestly can't tell how I feel about my genitals during sex. She'd want sex every couple months and otherwise, in our six year relationship, we masturbated individually. When I'd talk about wanting sex more or maybe scheduling it like some folks do, she'd get mad and say I shouldn't expect our relationship to be about sex, and that enthusiastic consent means we both have to really want it. She was a hypochondriac and thought sex could lead to one of us getting hurt. So I'm sort of a virgin on some level :-/

@ikea_femme Oof, this sounds a lot like my first relationship (when I was still "male" and looking for guys). I ended up in a relationship with a guy who seemed to kinda hate sex but stuck with him a few years because it was better than being lonely and I'd grown up kinda ashamed of having sexual urges anyway, and towards the end we weren't even sleeping in the same bed >_< I've had more experience then but chiefly with partners who want me to top...I'm wanting more of the opposite, so I'm less inclined to need a cock that gets hard (though I still like to play with it.)