@alyx What I find most annoying is when we get a waiter or cashier who refers to a group of women as "Ladies," but if they see me and some cis women at a table, they then say, "Guys."

I dress pretty femmey. I'm kind of obsessed with wearing outfits that make it clear I have breasts, since I think that tips the scale towards people getting I'm not a guy. But my voice is hardly great, so I guess they either read me as "crossdresser" or "not female enough to be a ~lady~." It could be they're just cycling through words, but I worry it's the worst case.