@pnathan I understand that, but it is always the ~exotification~ of somewhere else.

i.e. I grew up never traveling anywhere and then one day I took a trip to Atlanta.

but I didn't go back bragging about how foreign it was and talking about how I survived.

like living in china for two weeks isn't a personal achievement because Chinese people do it all the time

is what I was trying to get at but idk how to vocalize that