people are starting to notice Im really fucking depressed at the moment but every time I try and explain why and what actions people around me are taking that make me feel bad, everything I say is dismissed

@Concerned_Commy mostly people want to do the right thing but want it to be easy; if you make them feel like they're responsible for your suffering they won't like that (even if it's true) so if you want to change their behaviour towards you the hack is to give them a way to feel good about it

@gracie how the hell do I do that

@Concerned_Commy a spoonful of sugar—tell them which of their behaviours actually help as well as which hurt (even if really they're all one and not the other)
that way you're handing them a positive vision of themselves they can then live up to

@gracie I dont think I can get that to work

@Concerned_Commy it's hard going, typicals don't think like the rest of us, they need handling with care

@gracie tbh it would just be easier to kill myself at this point than convince them of anything

@Concerned_Commy suicide is always easier, that doesn't make it preferable
it's easier for them to be assholes, that doesn't make it a good choice