I'm kind of wondering if I would ID as non-binary if I had started transitioning now. I feel like I fought to hard for my she pronouns to give them up now. #trans

@geekylou I started transitioning last year, and personally, I played with identifying as genderqueer and using they pronouns as a kind of crutch.

Like, I knew since middle school being a guy didn't fit, and I liked how the girls looked and acted much better. But I didn't seriously consider I could transition until I was 27, in a big male body with a deep voice, and it was hard to see a woman in the mirror and I worried asking people to call me she and see me as a woman would be an imposition.

Then I worked on my presentation and realized, fuck it. I'm a woman internally, that's why I'm doing this. But that's not universal.

@geekylou Plus, I want to be clear I know this sounds a bit like that biphobic trope that bi people are just confused gay or straight people figuring out what orientation they are.

It's just my personal experience, and enbies are valid! I'm just not one of them, and for a brief period, I thought it'd somehow be easier to be one. Which I doubt. Either way, I wanted medical transition.

@ikea_femme @Nire maybe I should try being femme rather then my more butchy transbian self more often and see if it gets more or less comfortable.

@geekylou @ikea_femme better to just be you, probably?