earlier today my room mate was sobbing with her door wide open, and it was really, really loud even with my door closed and series on. i know things are shitty for her sometimes, but im really really depressed and overwhelmed and really wiuld prefer if they closed the door.i went to her and said im sorry i dint have the emotional capacity to request this with more compassion and space for her issues, but i would really like if the closed the door when sobbing......

i also feel really responsible for her feelings, beccause she has few friends. and i feel that because shes constantly crying that theres never a good time to bring up my boundaries. 2 things i need to talk about but i dont have energy to manage the emotional impact of me talking about my boundaries. i wish i could be able to support her in how it would make her feel, but having this as a "requirement" makes it feel like i have to be really stable to make a request