i also feel really responsible for her feelings, beccause she has few friends. and i feel that because shes constantly crying that theres never a good time to bring up my boundaries. 2 things i need to talk about but i dont have energy to manage the emotional impact of me talking about my boundaries. i wish i could be able to support her in how it would make her feel, but having this as a "requirement" makes it feel like i have to be really stable to make a request