**river** @eribloodlust · 2017-10-07T19:02:55Z

river @eribloodlust

room mate, boundaries, awkward Afficher plus

earlier today my room mate was sobbing with her door wide open, and it was really, really loud even with my door closed and series on. i know things are shitty for her sometimes, but im really really depressed and overwhelmed and really wiuld prefer if they closed the door.i went to her and said im sorry i dint have the emotional capacity to request this with more compassion and space for her issues, but i would really like if the closed the door when sobbing......

07 oct. 2017, 19:02 · Twidere for Android · 0 · 1

**river** @eribloodlust · 07 oct. 2017, 19:09

**river** @eribloodlust · 07 oct. 2017, 19:09

07 oct. 2017, 19:09

river @eribloodlust

room mate, boundaries, awkward Afficher plus

i also feel really responsible for her feelings, beccause she has few friends. and i feel that because shes constantly crying that theres never a good time to bring up my boundaries. 2 things i need to talk about but i dont have energy to manage the emotional impact of me talking about my boundaries. i wish i could be able to support her in how it would make her feel, but having this as a "requirement" makes it feel like i have to be really stable to make a request

**Natanji ‏✅** @natanji@octodon.social · 08 oct. 2017, 09:10

**Natanji ‏✅** @natanji@octodon.social · 08 oct. 2017, 09:10

08 oct. 2017, 09:10

Natanji ‏✅ @natanji@octodon.social

room mate, boundaries, awkward Afficher plus

@eribloodlust Oh gosh I feel you. This sounds very similar to a situation I was in a few years back, except the person sobbing was not just my room mate but also my girlfriend and she was sobbing because of things being difficult between us/not getting the attention she wanted from me. :/

**river** @eribloodlust · 08 oct. 2017, 11:06

**river** @eribloodlust · 08 oct. 2017, 11:06

08 oct. 2017, 11:06

river @eribloodlust

room mate, boundaries, awk Afficher plus

@natanji it sucks, like i can put off the conversation for some time, but not forever. siunds like it would be even harder with a partner... welp im not attracted to this person in the slightest. we just dont have a good living dynamic. nothing overtly maliscious. theres just a big pressure to be her emo support because im trans and because all her friends/partners ran away this year and i was living here thru that. i didnt ask for the job.....

**Natanji ‏✅** @natanji@octodon.social · 08 oct. 2017, 11:16

**Natanji ‏✅** @natanji@octodon.social · 08 oct. 2017, 11:16

08 oct. 2017, 11:16

Natanji ‏✅ @natanji@octodon.social

room mate, boundaries, awk Afficher plus

@eribloodlust Is this the same roommate our girlfriend is gonna move in with now? And is she aware of that?