considering to write a zine about the german feminist commandment that "one may never question another persons feelings".

The reason being: I have witnessed the use of phrases such as "i feel unsafe because of this person" or "i am uncomfortable with this person", used as a way to hide bigotry while getting what they want. This has been used in my experience to exclude minorities: poc, trans femmes, and neuroatypical people, from mostly white german afab lefty structures. I think it should be ok to ask why someone feels unsafe with a trans woman of colour living in their collective house. Why someone's callout makes you uncomfortable.

@eribloodlust I think we should look way more at the poly scene's handling of feelings. Which is: your feelings are yours to own and deal with.
Of course that shouldn't mean "tough luck, we won't help you" but rather "Hey, what can we do to help YOU deal with YOUR feelings? How can YOU cope?" etc.
And that EVEN goes for when said feelings come from trauma, btw. Still not okay to push responsibility on third parties.

@natanji i think the thing is that a lot of the time its not even about feelings, itsbusing the language of feelings to manipulate an outcome. because white/cis feelings are more important than oppression of minorities, the people in power positions can use this language to get their way and block any questioning. maybe sometimes it has to do with feelings, but then in political space i think feelings that lead to exclusion should be questioned. ex) in a plenum

@eribloodlust The difficult thing is that "feelings should be taken seriously" is also quite important, and sometimes exclusion is important because it otherwise leads to the exclusion of the hurt person. How many women have left hacker spaces because some dudes didn't take their feelings seriously?

But you really can't make this simple. It's a very case-by-case matter.