considering to write a zine about the german feminist commandment that "one may never question another persons feelings".
The reason being: I have witnessed the use of phrases such as "i feel unsafe because of this person" or "i am uncomfortable with this person", used as a way to hide bigotry while getting what they want. This has been used in my experience to exclude minorities: poc, trans femmes, and neuroatypical people, from mostly white german afab lefty structures. I think it should be ok to ask why someone feels unsafe with a trans woman of colour living in their collective house. Why someone's callout makes you uncomfortable.
@eribloodlust I think we should look way more at the poly scene's handling of feelings. Which is: your feelings are yours to own and deal with.
Of course that shouldn't mean "tough luck, we won't help you" but rather "Hey, what can we do to help YOU deal with YOUR feelings? How can YOU cope?" etc.
And that EVEN goes for when said feelings come from trauma, btw. Still not okay to push responsibility on third parties.
@natanji but that being said yup i think that is a good idea, but i dont see it working so well politically since the issue isnt actually about protecting boundaries or feeeelings but maintaining power structures
@natanji i would like that some of these practices were in use in these spaces yep :)
@eribloodlust That might well be, but the same goes for relationships. The poly scene has a lot of knowledge and best practices about dealing with harmful power dynamics in relationships, and I see a lot of potential in harnessing this for the (non-romantic) relationships inside an activist group.