@demonkind I do feel like the issue was that it implied femininity, and if someone isn't feminine, it's nicer to have a go-to that isn't going to be an issue :)

Honestly sometimes I worry about it more when it's not a cis-het individual in question.

like if someone's feeling dysphoric I don't want to accidentally make that worse, y'know? I think focusing on like specifics is a good call.