...what's a casual compliment for a man being attractive
b'cos like I frequently call women cute and then I called a guy cute and he _looked_ at me.
"hunky" isn't really from this century,
"hot" makes it seem like I want to frick him..
@edensaesthetic I think an unfortunate % of cishet men will take any compliment (from someone presenting as fem) as a sign you want their attention. Might avert by using a “bro” tone of voice, and language like “lookin sharp there” or “cool shirt”. Also the one guy might have reacted to “cute” because it implies small/feminine.
I apologize for the cis-het-normativity in this toot, just seemed like that’s the only context where complimenting a guy or calling him cute would be an issue.
@demonkind I do feel like the issue was that it implied femininity, and if someone isn't feminine, it's nicer to have a go-to that isn't going to be an issue :)
Honestly sometimes I worry about it more when it's not a cis-het individual in question.
like if someone's feeling dysphoric I don't want to accidentally make that worse, y'know? I think focusing on like specifics is a good call.