I feel like the most dangerous phrase to hear someone say is "I'll be okay when.."

It took so long to be kinda okay with where I'm at right now because of a load of silly guilt & responsibility people placed on me that I didn't know how to get rid of.

And if someone makes you feel like that, and you're not getting anything out of that relationship, but
"It'll be okay when.."

It just won't. Relationships are work, and I get that, but they're working together and you shouldn't ever feel like you're the one responsible for all of it.