It's like when someone does that to me now, it hurts.

And before, it was frustrating but it didn't hurt, it was just annoying. Like
"Why don't _you_ BELIEVE that I know what I mean?"

And now it feels more like a tiny stab because I know it's not just me, it's nothing to do with me. It's just culture. The men doing it aren't bad people, they're just in a toxic culture that encourages that kind of behaviour.

fuck's the point, right?