Vulnerable, but not to you. @drcable@witches.town

@AlexandriaYandere morning

@Alda thanks @maiwann !

ingredients https://witches.town/media/Im80fjI1iCenGHojfIo

@AlexandriaYandere night!

@ghost_bird yeah, but I'm not sure subgroups are the right model here? like, last night when the whole bdsmtest thing was going on in witches town, it was in the community but all CN'd? not locked off in a seperate group? I think it's a different model, slightly, maybe?

@nire one of my ongoing themes is trans women never get a girlhood(though, this is true for cis to some extent too) and this fundementally fucks us all up wrt se

@nire this so much(hi, my experience, my rape, complexly) people who've had relationships pre-trans have a massive advantage here(complexly, and not in all cases)

@nire yeah, but people don't talk about the dangers of forming in/out groups enough, its always just universal good(because, well, we're under attack, constantly)

@nire yeah, I love that one cos it deals so well with the embodied stuff, and the tw stuff.

tl;dr: community is dangerous.

@nire this is a thing. you've read https://thenewinquiry.com/essays/hot-allostatic-load/, right?

maybe closed comunities are dangerous and forment abuse and using them for our discussion of inherently dangerous topics(sex, kink, relationships) is a bad idea. Maybe opt in communities that are more porus are a good idea. And maybe comunities that are porus need to be large enough to opt out of discussion of these topics without losing the comunity.

@nire uh, sorry, hugs if wanted

@nire all kink is funny right? a big joke? no-one actually...does this stuff, right????

@katastrophe seems like you're making a big issue out of nothing, brat