Thinking about #femme as my gender again. For a few years now, the term "lesbian" seems to apply to me only very inexactly. Femme has become an identity I feel very at home with, and in many contexts, I don't identify as "woman" any more. It feels as if, in an imaginary multi-dimensional gender spectrum, my position was shifted from "woman" on an axis many don't even perceive or know of. Does that make any sense?
#femme on femme attraction is another point that makes things weirder... because to many who use the term "femme", "butch" is a necessary counterpart. But my desire seems to be built otherwise than along an assumed polarity of masculine and feminine. Attraction to femininity is a strong constant for me; femininity can be many things, though, not necessarily opera diva type hyperfemininity.