in the last week I read a toot about how you shouldn't call people with kids "breeders". In my mother language, (german)there is no equivalent to that word.. correct me if I'm wrong.

I'm childfree by choice, and being nominally heterosexual/being read as heterosexual, I had my fair share of dealing with expectations that having children is something that "all people do (except for queers and freaks)". Or what "every woman wants".

for me, the term "breeders" applies to people who live by these rules and norms without questioning them _and_ thoughtlessly impose them on other people, regardless if they have kids or not.

I guess when I was younger and less aware of things I might have had some views that were disrespectful of kids. I'm sorry for that now. It was an outlet for me, for constantly having to deal with this normative pressure to "breed", and it was the wrong one.

but what also happened was, that simply stating "I don't want to have kids" and "I don't think babies are cute" was twisted into "I hate kids".

maybe it's a thing that if you're considered a childhater just for not wanting to have children yourself, you react with provocation.. (and that's not excusing it.)

the kids are all right. the system stinks.