I remember when I was a teenager, I was told that hetero guys get a single earring in their left ear. and gay guys have single earring in their right ear. guess who had a single earring pierced into her right ear! :D

It's fun to discover those "early girlfag things" that I did way before becoming aware of being one, but also I don't want to fall into the trap of manipulating my story to fit into a consistent narrative. I'm not a 100% girlfag, never was, always was a person in between labels, and that's what I will always be.

re: girlfag terminology: I'm aware "fag" is not my term to reclaim, but tbh but all the people who for decades never protested against the term "fag hag" and now are complaining about ppl using "girlfag" can fuck right off.

what bothers them is not really the terminology, but that gendequeer people who aren't really men claim a gay male identity. things are complicated, and that's not going to go away.

@distelfliege in Britain this term is rarely used as in our slang -fag" more commonly means a cigarette (eine Kippe).

in coastal towns you may have a "fag house" which might be raided by the Police, but not because lewd stuff is occuring there.. 20 cigarettes in UK can cost over €11 because of taxes, folk travel to BE/DE and other EU nations, buy in bulk and resell for profit (which is illegal)

we did have the same stereotype about earrings but other way round (L/R reversed!)

@vfrmedia thanks for the funny anecdotes and the help getting what lewd means!

the reversed earrings thing is especially funny when I think about traffic participants in UK and DE doing linksverkehr and rechtsverkehr ;D